Maria and Mario have been giving us a run for our money lately. Jon and I have threatened on a few too many occasions that we are going to send them off to a deserted island to make it on their own. I think they are at the point of agreeing to such a proposal. Maria asked me tonight whether Jon and I would agree to let her move in with a boyfriend if she had just gone on one date with him. Yeah, I am not kidding. Age 5. Yikes. Of course, at this point, I am ready to bellow “yes, go!” but I restrain myself knowing that my mind is warped from too many jigsaw puzzles and barbie dramas. I look so forward to the weekends but by the time 7 pm Sunday hits, I am done. Cooked.
The family did have a good weekend this past weekend, however. We went to “Big Mario’s house on Saturday afternoon to go fishing. Mario had fished with Jon a few weeks back and Jon thought it would be great to have the entire family out on the dock fishing. He got poles, lines, bait. We got to Mario’s, said our hellos and then headed down to the dock for some good ol’ fishing. While we waited for Jon to get the poles together, we threw catfood into the water to attract the fish. Mario cracked us up with his utter joy in seeing the ripples formed from the fish grabbing at the food. He would see a snatch and his eyes would bulge out, his right arm would shoot up, and he would exclaim “look mom!” Precious. Maria just wanted to put her feet in the water and move them around in the mud. She has always been sensual – feeling the silk of her blankie, soaking her hair in the bath. She loved the feel of the mud on her feet. After Jon got the poles together, he brought one to Mario. He clung to me and yelled “no, mom – I am scared.” Huh?! Jon informed me that during the last fishing trip, a catfish’s barb had gotten Mario and so he may be gunshy (or hookshy?) now. That he was. He wanted nothing to do with fishing. Well, one down.
Maria gave it a try. Within 5 minutes, she and her father got a catfish. But after that one, she became bored because the fish did not bite right away. Poor Jon. So much for our lovely family outing. I gave them a bath (they adore Mario and Vicki’s bubble bath tub) and Jon continued his fishing all alone. We did have a kickin’ pasta family meal thanks to Aunt Vicki who made meatballs, homemade bread, and zucchini muffins with icing. Yum!
On Sunday, we hosted Grandma Lolo at Stauf’s. What a time that was. My poor mom. She had bad allergies and then the kids were insane with energy and goofiness, and would not sit still or give us a moment to talk. I was ready to strangle them both but there were too many people around. I continue to struggle with allowing them to talk and express themselves at the table (I am not one of those parents that think kids should be silent at the dinner table) but not allowing them to be rude and interruptive.
When we got home, I told Jon I was ready to go nuts. He had his talk with them (“You will listen to us” with Mario responding “no, I will not.”). We all went our respective ways to cool off. It worked because within fifteen minutes we were off on a run in the stroller through Grandview. Maria and Mario brought their coloring and sticker books and Maria played teacher with Mario telling him how smart he was and how cute he was 9.
We rushed down to COSI when we got home for Maria’s friend’s birthday party. Jon and I watched Mario while Maria went to her private room. He had a blast. We decided he is definitely going to be a mountain climber or an extreme sport adventurer. He climbed up these wood decorations on the outer part of the steps and did not miss a beat. There were nooks and crannies that he needed to step in or avoid and he was right on. It was hilarious. And he wanted no help. If he did not get it right away, he kept trying with all of his heart. He does not give up. Maria had a blast with her friends and was fine being on her own for two hours.
We came home and called it a night staying around the house. Mario had a few meltdowns because he failed to take a nap during the day. He hit me a few times, also, which promptly led me to place him down and walk away from him. Within three seconds of being put down, I hear “MOMMMMMY!” along with whimpering of “sorry mommy.” He laid next to me on the couch watching a movie before bed, and at one point he placed the inside of his hand on my cheek. I looked over at him and he whispered “I love you mom.” Meltdown. That is all it takes to forget the major tantrums he had throughout the day. He knows the tricks.
We went upstairs to play before bed and Maria played barbies. She told Jon that her barbies were models and that they were all “perfect.” Jon asked her if she thought I was perfect. Maria responded “no, mom is alright.” I gave her a sigh and told her that I would rather be smart and funny and engaged in life than be a size 0. Hopefully that soaks in. However, she did go on to clarify that these models also went to college. Ok, getting better. We eventually got them to bed but Maria came downstairs about a half hour later. Jon asked what she needed and she said she wanted to tell me something.
She came over to the computer and said “Mom, I am sorry for saying that you are not perfect earlier. You are the best mom.” A second meltdown. And she got what she wanted – me upstairs laying with her until she fell asleep. Sometimes giving in is the best route to go.