We booked a trip to the Governor’s Ball in NYC months ago as a graduation gift for our daughters. Girl in Red was scheduled to perform – Maria loves her. Lizzo was also scheduled and I love her:) When we booked the flights (non-refundable) we nervously kidded about the fact that one of us would get Covid or be so run down from the graduation festivities that we’d not be able to go. At that time, we could’ve never imagined that wildfires from Canada would interfere with our trip. Covid may have sparked a new normal in our lifetime. Random environmental and biological events popping up in our lives and causing havoc to our daily lives.
We were scheduled to leave on Thursday early afternoon. The concert started on Friday. On Wednesday morning, the moms began a mad text chain with concerns about the festival canceling and the state of the city with all of the smoke. By that afternoon, we received pictures of a dark orange/grey sky in NYC. It looked ominous. By that evening, we switched our flights from Thursday to Friday morning. Then, to add to the fun, Maria started to feel sick. She had gone to Sheetz with some friends on Tuesday night and plowed through some Mac and Cheese bites. She thought this was definitely the cause of her stomach ache Wednesday. However, as the day continued, she felt worse and worse. We were hoping she would get over it in 24 hours but on Thursday morning, she felt twice as bad. As the day progressed, we decided that we should take her to the doctor on Friday morning and move our flight yet again to Friday evening. It was a royal pain to continue to change our flights because with each flight change, I had to wait for an agent and then spend time with that agent haggling over new flight times and charges. When I wasn’t spending my time doing that, I was busy researching how to sell our festival tickets for Friday since we were not going to make it. We paid a nice chunk of cash for those tickets, and it made me sick to not be able to use them. 
We got up and went to the doctor on Friday morning. The doc diagnosed her with a stomach bug, and prescribed heavy duty nausea medicine. Sticking with the theme of everything being a pain in the ass, the doctor prescribed the medicine to the wrong store. I had to go around and around with the doctors office and the wrong store and correct store to get the medicine. Eventually, two hours later, I went to pick it up. I am mediately inserted the tiny pill in Maria’s hand to take. About an hour later, Ri was starting to feel a little bit better. I looked at flight times and found that there was one at 3:30 pm in addition to our 6:30 PM flight. It was 1:15 PM. I called Maria to see if she wanted to try to change our flight and go out earlier so we could at least see Lizzo in concert. She knew how much I wanted to see her, and she was game. My girl. I spent a mere 20 minutes on the phone with the ticket agent to change our tickets up (a good sign), and Jon sped us to the airport.
We arrived in New York City at 6 PM. We jumped on the train to hit Penn Station and delivered our bags to the hotel. We left the hotel at 7 pm; I was nervous about getting to the festival on time. Maria kept assuring me that we would be there by the time Lizzo hit the stage. Of course, we were, thanks to Ri’s insanely prolific navigational skills. She knew the right subway to take and where to get off. My girl could totally crank out New York City on her own. 
Before Lizzo came on, I made Maria go to the M & M stand with me to get free M&Ms. Heaven! As we were leaving, it poured down rain for about 10 minutes. We happened to be in the middle of the park with no shelter, and got drenched. Maria received a call from her two girlfriends informing her they were in the GA+ area. We made a mad dash over to that area, and we’re happy to see that they were passing out ponchos.  We found Maria’s friends and their moms, and we all embraced in delight! We had finally made it!
Lizzo did not disappoint. She had a great opening about believing in yourself and being proud of who you are and standing up for what you believe in. She rocked the stage and Maggie and I jammed to her. Maria and Henley enjoyed it but Maggie was definitely the biggest fan. I love that these girls all love to see each other happy. Maria and Henley enjoyed Lizzo so much because they loved to see Maggie belting out the tunes and hopping up and down. They really truly love one another, and it is heartwarming to witness. When the show ended, we walked out with the masses to the subway station. We got lucky, and it was not too crowded on the subway. When we arrived at the hotel, we went into our separate rooms, and the moms at least, fell fast asleep. Day 1-check!
Saturday morning brought avocado toast, and omelettes. We went to a cute café Maria found down the street from our hotel. After breakfast, we traveled over to Roosevelt Island. You have to take a tram to get onto the island. It was not as scary as I thought, and provided good views along the way. The moms liked Roosevelt Island more than the girls. However, they did not complain, and took in the sights with smiles on their faces.  The Island housed an insane asylum and a small pox hospital – yikes! It also had a lighthouse and statutes in tribute to Nellie Bly- the first woman investigative journalist who reported on marginalized groups and fought for their better treatment. But the coolest site was a statute of Maria’s nickname – RI!

After the island, the moms and the girls split up, because Henley was going to Soho to visit her roommate, and wanted only Maggie and Maria to tag along. The moms split up – Kim went to visit her parents who were in town, Melanie went shopping, and I went to walk around Central Park.  I got to see street performers – my favorite! We all met up to get ready for dinner and our Broadway show. I did not connect with Maria until we began our walk to dinner. She did not look good. She confirmed that she also did not feel good. She tried to hang in there and made the walk to the restaurant with us. Once we got there, she looked even worse. I knew she was definitely sick when they brought a menu of pasta and bruschetta, and she stated that she could not eat anything. I ended up walking her back to the hotel so that she could rest and hopefully be ready to go for Sunday’s events. I felt so bad for her. However, I did know that she had no desire to go to the Broadway show, and was probably relieved that she got to miss out on that one:)  Little did she know that the Broadway show was actually going to be very good (it was Six). Both of the girls enjoyed it and the moms loved it. It was short and full of upbeat music and dancing. Like Lizzo, it was all about girl empowerment and telling your own story. 
After the show, we stopped to get waffles and ice cream in Bryant Park. Pretty heavenly. We checked on Maria when we got back to the hotel and she was feeling much better. The full day of walking after being sick for three days was probably not a good idea…. But, she certainly rebounded for Sunday. My girl is a lot like her father. If she goes and goes, she needs some downtime to recharge and then can easily pick up where she left off.
I woke up early on Sunday to take a run in Central Park. Holy cow. Little did I know how many miles it took to run around Central Park! I kept thinking that I was near the end and then it would just continue. I told myself I would not stop running until I got to the end but it took some serious discussions with that inner devil in me saying “Stop This Nonsense!” It helped to listen to the show tunes from Six, and to see other runners struggling to continue. I finally saw the entrance to the Park, and was relieved and proud of myself for making it. We all met at the breakfast buffet (I got my cups of Fruit Loops and granola for the road) at the hotel and then took off by 9:45 AM to hit the Highline. It is an old railroad track that has been converted as a walkway through Chelsea. There are plants and flowers on either side of the walkway and cool murals to see. I enjoyed walking a good part of it with Maria. We chatted about Jon, Pitt, random things. It is so easy to travel with that girl, and I felt extreme delight in simply strolling along the walkway with this human. We stopped at the Chelsea market, got some water, and looked through a bookstore. We went straight from Chelsea to the festival. I kept a close eye on Maria, and she seemed to be doing well. The long night of sleep certainly helped. 
On our way to the festival, the moms talked about a podcast that we had listened to with Ross Gay and Glennon Doyle about finding delight in your day. Doyle talked about being delighted that she made a TSA agent laugh who she never dreamed would show such emotion. Ross Gay talked about the delight in wearing a red shirt that his dad may have found ridiculous. When I saw Maria standing near the stage talking to other teen girls waiting for Girl in Red to come out, I felt delight. Here was my baby girl branching out and meeting new people at the festival, and so excited to see a performer she loves. I thought about her going to Pitt, and all of the new people she would meet there. She is open and curious and easily able to make conversation. She loves to have a good time. She jumped and sang and waved her hands throughout the performance. She got to hold Girl in Red as she body surfed through the crowd. She’s also so generous and thoughtful. She found one of Girl in Red’s pics after the show. Maggie kept looking and looking on the ground for another and was downtrodden when she couldn’t find one. As we walked away, Maria took the pic and put it in Maggie’s hand. Maggie refused to take it, but Maria made her because it was her 18th birthday present. She makes my heart happy. She brings so much love to the room and cherishes her relationships with best friends and family. We ended the night with Kendrick Lamar who Henley was dying to see. Maria was surprised to like his music. She was in rare form at the end of the festival – she definitely got her groove back! She took her friends out on the town when we got back to the hotel. They got late night pizza and tooled around while the moms – tired and sore – went to bed. I left the next morning, but Maria got to stay for an extra day with her friends and one of the moms. It was her friend’s 18th birthday, and they went shopping and ate bunches of good food.
Oh, and one little other thing, Maria got a tattoo! Maria gets really hyped up and so happy in certain situations. She got the tattoo because she wanted to remember the trip.  She was thoughtful enough to get it on the top of her bicep so that she could wear a business casual top and have it covered. But she was also wild enough to get the tattoo in the first place. She told me that she didn’t think twice about it when she saw the tattoo parlor. She was with her best girlfriends, she was happy, and she wanted to memorialize it. I would’ve spent three hours, weighing the pros and cons of getting a tattoo. But not my girl, she just does it. There is something to be said for that personality trait. It may get her into some trouble here and there, but she will certainly be able to say that she took a wild ride in this lifetime. Delight.