Easter extravaganza

The Easter Bunny is way too prevalent on Easter weekend. The kids participated in three easter egg hunts and got two baskets of goodies. Our tummies are rolling in chocolate and sweet tarts.

After we all ate a box of Oreos!The first hunt was in Grandview on Saturday morning. They host it at the local park for kids up to 10 years old. Ri’s been going since she was a baby and Mario, too. It used to have a lot more eggs and a lot fewer people but this year it seemed like there was a ton of folks and a lot fewer eggs. They make up for the fewer eggs with giant packs of Oreos, animal crackers, and Rice Krispy treats. The kids line up at 10 am and by 10:01, the hunt is long over. The kids walk away with packs of Oreos and rice crispy treats and no eggs. We have our stock of treats for the next month. Why do it if this is why we end up with every year? I love my traditions and this is one that I have known since I was little. My grandmas both hid eggs for me at Easter and I loved hunting them down. I loved opening up the plastic eggs even if all I found was a jelly bean. So, my love has been passed down to M&M and they seem to love it, too.

The cousins hitting the trailsWe headed out to my parents’ farm on Saturday morning with Jon’s parents. Patty sat in the very back between Maria and Mario because they fount over who got to sit next to her. She resolved the fight by squeezing herself in between them in the third row seat. Of course, anyone else would be smooshed but she fits right in the small space with her tiny self! Mario cozied up to her as they watched Kenny the Shark (an awesome Discovery Channel find for $1.50 at CVS). Maria helped her put in her earring and tutored her on the features of her iPhone. She kept us all laughing with her commentary, which sounds like it’s out of the mouth of a fifty year old rather than a six-year-old. At one point, Patty asked Maria if she would get the $5 egg at my cousin’s house (each year one egg has a $5 bill in it). Maria said that she would let her cousin get the $5 egg because her cousin was having some rough times and needed it more than she did. God love her old empathetic soul.

The farm provided an awesome time with the wildflowers blooming and the trails awaiting our footsteps. Nothing better than eating a humongous meal of ham, potato salad, macaroni and cheese casserole, and butter ball rolls and then taking a hike through the woods. You start out feeling like you can’t move but by the end of the trek, you can actually take a breath without having to unbutton your pants. And within ten minutes of the hike, you can eat more! Rock-n-roll!

The bro and meThe kids rode the horses – Maria has got the strong thighs for it. She looks like a natural on Taz with those thighs and good posture. Mario looks like a little jockey all tiny and delicate compared to the regal horse. We even found the first toad of the year! Mario and Maria tried to grab it for me but it sensed trouble and hopped in a pipe.

My little bro and I got to hang out a bit, too, which is always a treat. He is twenty-three and trying to get his band more noticed and on the scene. He has been contemplating Toronto and Chicago but has recently decided on sticking with Columbus because Columbus has a decent music scene and it is a heck of a lot cheaper. It’s fascinating to talk to him about his music – it is all so innate in him and he rattles off descriptions of playing notes and feeling the music that I could never experience. His band, Alpine Ghost, kicks out some funky, alternative rock, and I would buy all his CDs in a heartbeat.

On Sunday morning, we woke to two little kids begging to see if the Easter Bunny came to our house. I acted like I was hitting the bathroom and hid eggs outside. They came down to baskets full of jump ropes and silly putty and candy. They scoured through the baskets excited to see all their presents and ready to move onto the eggs outside. That Easter egg hunt only lasted a minute longer than the Grandview one. They found all the eggs in less than 2 minutes. They are like police dogs with drugs – they sniff out those eggs like pros. I purposefully filled their eggs with candy I would not eat so that I would not be tempted to eat it while I filled them. However, I filled them right next to the extra Girl Scout cookies so I went through a box of Thin Mints and a half of a box of Do-Si-Dos. I would have been better off with peanut M&Ms.

Of course, what else to do on Easter morning than head to Tim Horton’s for some Easter donuts?! We strolled down while I read a book to them. Yes, I have gotten quite good at reading to them as I stroll them down the street. After Tim Horton’s, we strolled to the river to get some Easter rocks to paint. We were going to give them to Grandma Lolo and Papa Rod and the Heile gals but only got a few done by the time we had to go because we had to stop by my friend’s house to walk her dog. Maria loved this chore because she keeps talking about how much she wants to train and walk dogs. She is hilarious with dogs, and humans for that matter, when she is in charge. The dog’s name is Charlie, and all I heard from her was a command of “Charlie!” and then a loud clap. She does the same thing with her little cousin Gracie when she “watches” her. When Gracie does something she shouldn’t, Maria yells “Gracie” and smacks her hands together for a loud clap. She does not mess around!

Some of the Heile cousins!And then we made the drive to Cincy. Mario slept the entire trip while Maria played on my iPad. When we finally arrived, we met Lou, my mom’s new pup. He is a British coon hound and he is a gorgeous thing. So tame and sweet. Maria was in heaven walking him around the house. Mario played with his boy cousins, play fighting them and taunting them. They taunt him back, though, and he gets upset. Cousin Laura made him the cutest shirt in the world – she sewed a fishing rod and fish on a white t-shirt. It is precious and he loved it. She asked him to pose in it for her blog, and he stood on the chair performing every pose possible until she finally had enough. Ask the boy to pose, and he will gladly oblige.

The kids ran around with all of their cousins all night, and begged not to go when 8 pm arrived. Aunt Ann was in town from DC and she is always a hit with Maria. Maria seems fascinated with her probably because she is always dressed in nice clothes and jewelry but she still acts silly. She is that aunt that lives far away and is so exotic to kids but yet so down to earth and fun when she is in town. Maria begged to go back to Julie’s condo with her so we gave in and let her since the condo is on the way to the highway. She was ecstatic. When we picked her up later, I saw her and Ann in the window, and Maria was just staring at her while she spoke. So darling.

The four contestants for the egg hunt!The Heile’s fest was a whirlwind as always. Volleyball, Easter egg hunt (Maria and Mario did not get the $5 egg again this year!), DQ cake, hugging, frisbee, basketball, and lots of good-natured yelling (poor Jon!).

We arrived home at 10:45 pm – both Maria and Mario asleep in their car seats. Maria awoke at 7 am crying hysterically about not wanting to go to Kids Club. Twenty-five minutes straight of bawling hysteria. On a Monday morning. Seriously? That was not what I needed to get me off to a good day. But who am I kidding? There was no way that this Monday morning was going to be good anyway. I just spent a week in Florida and two days eating non-stop sugar and hanging with family. Monday was going to be back to reality. So I wanted to cry with Maria when she was throwing down tears but I held it together and acted like all was just peachy keen. And eventually, it was when we were all off of work and school and back in the house again eating chocolate peanut butter cups.

Reminder to Self: Take Vacation

Mission accomplished.

We took Naples for a ride this week, specifically the Ritz Carlton in Naples. Yeah, Maria and Mario in the Ritz Carlton. Very scary. We figured we’d be kicked out within 24 hours but surprisingly, I think management was ready to bring us back. Maria and Mario definitely added some life to the place with their unabashed commentary and their hilarious antics. Jon and I had our trepidation about the flights, the hotel, the itinerary day after day. But in the end, the trip could not have been more fantastic. The flights were a piece of cake. Maria is an executive in the making pulling her roller bag behind her with no problem at all. Mario is a hiker in the making throwing his roller bag/backpack onto his shoulders and carrying it through the airport. Jon and I could not stop watching them on the plane. They were so excited to look out the window and watch the plane ascend into the sky. And the amazement of being in the clouds! Jon and I found ourselves laughing every other minute at all of the little comments they made as we flew. 

The hotel was decadent. We were on the 12th floor and our balcony provided a good view of the beach (the kids loved going out on the balcony but it freaked me out!). They also loved the bathroom because it had a tv in it. They realized that before Jon and I, and they locked themselves in the room one afternoon and watched Tom and Jerry. We didn’t realize it until we needed to go to the bathroom and after knocking and knocking, Maria opened the door and Mario was on the counter top hunched over with eyes glued on the tv.  But other than those few episodes, the kids barely watched any tv on the trip. 

The breakfast buffet reminded us of heaven.  Pecan rolls, waffles with chocolate chips and whipped cream, omelettes, bacon, fruit loops, eggs benedict.  Every morning, the kids would sit back in their chairs and say “this is the life.”  Jon and I could not disagree.    

We lived at the pool and the beach.  Overall, the kids liked the pool better because it was not salty, you could see under the water, and it was less rough.  Jon and I would have liked to be on the beach more, but they were pretty good about heading down to the ocean after an hour or so in the pool.  Maria enjoyed the ocean more than Mario because she could go out farther in it.  She also liked riding the waves.  Mario would try to karate chop them as they broke; Maria would just move her body with them bobbing up and down.  Our first morning, we went out into the ocean and as we stood in the water, a dolphin swam 50 feet in front of us and then another.  We stood in awe – what a way to begin the trip.  The pool provided much fun, especially for Mario.  He dove to the bottom and swam all over.  Jon and I could not believe that he was not fast asleep by 7 pm every night the way that he did cannonballs off the side and swam five feet under the water to touch the bottom.  Maria enjoyed resting on the noodles, drifting around the pool.  We came up with a game where we named an activity and then we all went under water to act it out.  We picked apples from an apple tree, had a tea party, played baseball….  

Rapping it out in the elevatorWe broke up the morning and afternoon with lunch on the beach or in the pool area.  Maria loved the beach restaurant because they served chicken strips, french fries, and a cookie!  Jon fell in love with the grouper sandwich and I loved the chicken wrap.  All for only $90!  Yeah, that is right.  Luckily, our package had a credit of $100 a day so the lunch was paid for in the end.  If not, I would have had a coronary.  It was a treat to have everything right at our fingertips – the pool, the towels, the food, the beach, the sand, the shells.  In the evenings, we would head out for dinner to avoid paying $1000 for dinner at the hotel.  We hit Buca De Beppo one night, and Mario choked on a piece of mozzarella cheese.  Scared us half to death.  Jon threw him my way after he hit his back a couple of times and Mario continued to choke.  I stuck my finger down his throat and got the cheese out but I was a shaky mess afterwards.  Maria did that to me when she was about a year old – we were in Krogers and she choked on a grape.  Such a scary few seconds.  Ugh!  We hit Ruby Tuesday another night with all of the 70+ year olds.  That was a trip.  We had not been in one of those restaurants for quite some time, and remembered why afterwards.        

On Tuesday, we traveled to the Everglades.  We saw a slew of alligators off one of the roads recommended by the hotel for alligator sightseeing.   The kids rolled down there windows to see them, and Maria kept yelling at Jon not to fall into the water.  Mario dared Jon to get out of the car.  Quite a difference in the reactions of these two!  We took an air boat through mangroves hoping to find some alligators but didn’t see any on that trip.  We caught an osprey on our return to the dock, though.  After the air boat, we went to the Wooten’s, which we were told was a kids’ museum.  It was really an alligator farm.  In addition, it housed a turkey, bobcat, tiger, river otter, and turtles.  It was a bit disturbing.  The kids held a baby alligator, and Maria even kissed it.  Mario lifted it up over his head and the caretaker grew concerned when the alligator began squirming (as did I!). 

On the way to the farm, Maria had asked whether alligators crossed the road after we saw a sign for jaguar crossing.  Jon and I laughed and told her that alligators probably don’t cross the roads.  As we pulled out of the farm and traveled up 41, a five foot alligator waddled across the road in front of our car.  Jon and I looked at each other and pointed him out to Ri.  She proceeded to yell “I told you so!  In your face!”  Our sweet little 6 year old talking like a 14 year old.  While she was yelling that at us, Mario was singing “I’m sexy and I know it” out the window.  When we hit a more pedestrian area, he kept repeating “Where is a hot woman? Come to daddy!”  Jon and I almost fell out of our seats. Where does he get these crazy sayings?  I have never heard Jon talk this way and I don’t think he is bottling it up and going down Grandview Ave. shouting it out so I have no clue where it is from.  All we can think is that it is innate in his little brain.  God help us.  We laughed so hard together in the car that day – it was wonderful.  

We played putt-putt on Wednesday in the burning heat.  We just had to break up the day at the pool because we were starting to get burnt even though we were lathering up on 50 sunscreen.  Of course, it probably wasn’t the smartest move to head to outdoor putt-putt to get away but at least we could cover our shoulders with shirts.  That is where we were all getting burnt.  I remain the putt-putt queen but Jon gave me a run for my money.  Maria and Mario both got two hole-in-ones, thank god.  They would switched back and forth getting mad about not getting one when one of them got one. 

In the evenings, we would head down to the beach for the sunset.  It was cloudy all of the nights except one.  That night was amazing.  Maria and Jon stood in the water watching the bright red sun descending on the horizon, and Mario and I watched from the beach.  It is those moments that rejuvenate me like a shock to the heart.  Ahh, so this is what matters to me.  Now I remember again.  My family, laughter, time away.  We all walked back up to the hotel room and as I stared at Maria and Mario ahead of us and Jon by my side I felt such joy and contentment.  This is why vacations are needed.  Re-start those engines. 

We packed it all up on Thursday afternoon and hit the trinket shop to buy souvenirs.  The flights home were uneventful.  The kids fell straight to sleep on the second flight from Atlanta to Columbus.  We arrived at 11:30 pm, and poor Maria had to wake up and walk the entire airport with us since Jon had to carry luggage and I had to carry Mario.  She cried during most of the walk but she persevered and walked all the way to the car while sobbing “I just want my bed!”  She is a trooper. 

Mario woke up in our bed on Friday morning and asked whether it was a dream that he was in an airplane the night before.  We chuckled and told him that he had fallen asleep and we carried home to the car and put him in his bed.  As I unpacked our clothes, I caught myself wondering the same thing – was it all a dream now that we are back in our “routine?”  No way – the sunsets, the pool-time, the beach, the dolphins, the car trips, the time together was all too real and too refreshing to ever be a dream.

Simple pleasures

I took the kids to the Gateway Theatre across from my office because they had a morning movie fest.  We missed the activities before the movies last time we went so we made sure to get there earlier this time.  Maria was quite disappointed due to the overwhelming “baby” activities that they had set up.  I couldn’t argue with her.  But, they did have a baby alligator and a lizard for kids to see.  Mario stared at them both and pounded questions at the caretaker.  They also had a tarantula that Mario almost rubbed faces with when the caretaker took it out.  All I could picture was that spider’s fangs digging into Mario and I finally grabbed him away.  My smart Maria kept her distance. 

We got our popcorn and cookie and took our seats at the very top of the theatre.  They play a movie short and then a fun local band, Shazbott’s, plays music before the next movie.  Mario loves to go to the front of the theatre and dance.  Maria is starting to get self-conscious about it all and stayed in her seat the first round.  She only came down the next time because I begged her.  She stood by me and watched Mario dance.  Mario stood by a blond girl who I believe was part of the band.  Later he asked for my phone and I saw him taking a ton of pictures of her.  Freaky little guy.

While Maria and I watched Mario dance with the other little kids, I noticed a bald guy holding a little black-haired girl dancing around to the music.  He looked like someone I knew – I couldn’t think of who so I found myself glancing over at him off and on to try to remember.  He continued to dance with the little girl and then a woman came up from behind him and started to use sign language.  He spoke back to her in sign.  Another lady approached them and the two women began talking.  After a few seconds, they started to sign for the guy.  They all laughed. 

I began to tear up.  How ridiculous I kept thinking to myself.  Hold it together.  You are breaking down over seeing a manspeak in sign with his wife and friend? 

Well, that little talk to myself did not work.  I continued to be emotional.  But there was something so raw about the sight.  The beauty of this man unable to hear the music like we hear it but still dancing with his daughter.  Laughing with his family.  

The audacity of love.  The joy of life.  It hit me like a truck rolling right over me; embrace this time.  Enjoy Mario’s dancing.  Appreciate Maria’s laugh.  Treasure their kinship. 

I am grateful for these moments in life where some gesture or some person wakes you up and allows you to take a deeper look at where you are and what you have and all that is good in life.  We walked out of the theatre and over to my work so Maria and Mario could push the elevator buttons and grab a couple of chocolate bars out of my colleague’s candy dish.  Simple pleasures.

A Wicked Hat and We’re Ready for the Beach

“Guess what, mom? We have four more days until summer vacation!” 

Mario stood in the kitchen on Wednesday morning and gleefully informed me of this fact as he drank his gatorade.  He doesn’t quite get the whole “spring break” deal.  After we counted down the days again together, he proceeded to talk about what he was expecting to do in Florida.

“I am going to put my goggles on and swim in the ocean and pet a dolphin and a shark and an alligator. I am going to make sure that the shark moves far away so Ria is not scared.”

Always protecting his sis.  Maria chimed in on her expectations for Florida:

“I am going to put on my bikini, lay on my beach towel, and get a tan.” 

Remind me again that she is 6 and not 16?!

Mario in his beach hatWe headed to Target last night to pick up some necessities and a few “fun” items like hats and sunglasses and coloring books.  Mario picked out a west-side ball cap with a skull and bones on it at first.  I cringed when he picked it up.  It was two times too big for him even though it was in the little boys’ section, and thank go for that fact.  Remember, Mario hates anything that is big on him – he likes things tight.  He quickly discarded the skull cap when he saw it swimming on his head.  There was a beach straw hat I had my eye on for him, and I was excited to see him pick it up and try it on.  He modeled that hat in the mirror for five whole minutes.  Turning from side to side and adjusting the hat in numerous ways.  What a ham.  He finally turned to Maria and me and commented “This hat is wicked!”  Yeah, that is his new term he loves to use.

Maria picked out a princess ball cap at first.  I asked her why she would pick a princess cap when she was not into princesses anymore and she just shrugged her shoulders.  I know the reason she picked it.  It was right by her side on the shelf and she was tired from a long day at school.  If she is tired, my girl could care less what she gets.  I had to help her pick another hat because I couldn’t bear to see her revert to her princess days.  She ended up with a pink ball cap.  We grabbed some sunglasses and beach wear.  The kids kept pointing to beach towels and sunscreen but I told them we’d stop at a store on our drive to Naples.  They were amazed that there would be stores like Target in Florida!

Showing off their hats and shades to dadMario walked around the store with his straw hat on, flipping it off his head when girls approached him and saying “Howdy partner!”  When we got to the checkout line, Maria marveled at the woman in front of us with three-inch red heels on her feet.  “Mom, you should get a pair of those for Naples.”  I asked her “when would I wear them, Ri?”  Her response: “to breakfast, of course!”

Finally Vindicated

All of those evenings of watching “Evening” and crying like a baby have made me a happier person!  Rock on!  I have known it all along ever since I started watching Terms of Endearment in sixth grade and Legends of the Fall in high school.  And now I have been vindicated with the study in Can Watching Sad Movies Make you Happier

I love this study!  Jon can no longer complain when I come up to bed at midnight with bloodshot eyes and ruddy nose and dried up tears.  It is only making me happier. So, ladies, get out those DVDs of Out of Africa, the Notebook, and Dead Man Walking, and shed those tears in order to bust out that smile later.

Pretty Nails and Full Tummies

Maria and I engaged in a total girls-fest tonight while Mario got pampered by Grandma and Grandpa Ionno in Marion. 

Maria and her purple nailsWe strolled to the park for a some double sliding action on the twisty, plastic slide.  We went to the nail salon for a manicure and pedicure in order to prepare for our Florida trip.  Maria got killer purple fingernails and yellow sparkly toe nail polish.  I stuck with “boring” white on my nails and orange toes (one of them is so bruised from running that even a bright orange would not cover the purple bruise – lovely!).  

After our salon experience, we hit Orange Leaf for some frozen yogurt with lots of yummy toppings (chocolate espresso topping, thin mints, lucky charms).  

We ended the night with a stroll home underneath the foggy moon.  I sang “I see the moon and the moon sees me…”  as Maria laid her head down and fell asleep within five minutes from home.

Sleeping in

Maria excited about making b-fast!This past weekend, Jon and I re-lived our sleep-deprived nights when the kids were babies.  The nights weren’t quite as awful as years ago when we lived on two hours of sleep a night, but bad enough that we were awakened several times in the night by moaning kids with coughs and fevers and runny noses.  We were exhausted when the sun arose.  But, that being said, over the last month, the weekends have gotten increasingly better for us because of Maria’s ability to work the tv remote.  Yes, she has mastered the great art, and we are quite happy about it (at least until she becomes interested in shows she should not be watching).   She is able to locate Ben Ten or Batman for Mario to watch, fix them bowls of cereal, and play mother hen.  A win-win for everyone in the family, especially Jon and me because we can finally “sleep in” until 8 am. 

I remember years ago waking up with Maria or Mario through the night and dreaming about the day that they would sleep for more than 2 hours at a time.  Some of Jon and I’s worst spats were at 3 am when we were both sawing logs and Maria or Mario would wake us up with their wails from the crib. 

“It’s your turn.”

“Are you crazy? I was just up.”

“No way!  I just climbed back to bed!”

Maria learning how to be the "mother hen" early!The expletives were scattered throughout our words.  One of us would stomp out of the room and back into the room after having rocked Maria or Mario for a half of an hour in the rocking chair.  The next morning, we would apologize and laugh at how crazy we were becoming from the massive sleep deprivation, and we would swear that we were going to let the bugger cry it out that night.  But that night came, and there was one of us always rockin’ the babe to sleep (they better be taking good care of us when we are old and grey). 

Eventually, they made it up to three hours, then four, then five until finally at 18 months, yes, 18 months old, each of them decided to sleep through the night.  However, as soon as they started sleeping through the night, they began waking up at the crack of dawn (Maria at 5:30 am; Mario at 6 am) ready to rock-n-roll.  Jon always teases them that when they become teenagers and want to sleep in until noon, he will be at their bedside with the blowhorn waking them up at 7 am. 

I can’t wait.

Sweet Mornings

Mario kills me. I know one day he will stop doing what he has been doing for the last few months but I hope it is far into the future because it makes my morning.  

Doll Baby BoyMost mornings I take Maria to school and Jon takes Mario.  Maria and I get out the door first since she needs to be at school at 8:10.  Nearly every morning, Mario yells “Mom” before I close the door.  I peek inside and he is holding his arms wide with his little boxers on and his baby skin glistening.  I run to where he is planted, and he gives me the hugest bear hug he can muster.  Then he plants a perfect peck of a kiss on my cheek.  He tops it off with a “Have a good day, mom.  I love you.” 

Really?  Does it get any better than that to start your day?  I know, I know, I can hear my friends with teenage boys now: “enjoy it while you can because pretty soon he will be sweaty and gross and not want you to talk to him.”  Probably true so I am making sure to plant these morning moments in my head so I can look back years from now and still revel in them.

Grateful you were first

Maria ran her first lemonade stand with three friends today.  She loved it.  She sat at the table with bags of popcorn for 25 cents and solo cups of lemonade for 10 cents.  The two boys ran out to the curb when they saw a car coming down the street and yelled “Lemonade for sale!”  Maria and the other girl at the stand, Nora, sat back and watched the boys.  All of the kids are in first grade but none of them are in Maria’s class.  I had asked one of the boys’ mom, Tess, to pick up Maria from school for me because I was stuck in Obama traffic at the university (Obama spoke at OSU today!).  Tess and I used to live three doors away from each other.  She is always there in times of need, which are not often but absolutely a godsend when they do occur. 

Mario idolized Tess’ son, Blake because Blake loves to play any sport.  Mario would see him in his front yard playing soccer and beg to go play with him.  Maria and Blake got along well when they were younger but as they have grown older, they have very little in common.  They weren’t in kindergarten or first grade together so there was even less interaction.   Maria did not know the other boy at the stand at all except seeing him in the cafeteria at school.  Maria is in girl scouts with Nora but they don’t interact much, either.   So when Tess texted me to tell me they were heading over to this lemonade stand, I wondered how Maria would do. 

Our happy girlWhen I showed up, she was beaming with the other kids.  She begged not to leave.  She ran around with all of them even though it was obvious that the three of them hung out a lot, and Maria was a “fourth wheel.” But she didn’t care a bit.  At one point, they all got popsicles and forgot about her.  She didn’t freak out, cry, throw a fit.  She just let Tess ask one of the boys if he could get her a popsicle and a few minutes later, he did.  She accepted it and ate with all of them, not holding any grudge.  I am amazed at how much she just goes with the flow in those situations.  Maybe it’s just a function of being young – you have less judgments about yourself, less hold-ups.  But I have noticed other kids her age who would not have been as comfortable as Maria around this crew so I do appreciate her ability to roll with it and have a good time doing it. 

And while I appreciate that trait in her, I do not appreciate her sarcastic mouth that seems to creep up more and more.  The other night I was talking to neighbors and she stood next to me.  Every time I told her to do something, she gave me some smart as- response back.  I pulled her aside when I finished with the neighbor and told her how much I disliked that talk.  Part of it is that she tries to be funny because that is how Jon and I can be funny so I can’t totally be appalled at her behavior but she has to know when she is going overboard and stop.  We don’t need Mario following in her footsteps since that seems to be his mojo lately.  Maria was on a kick where she would cry “I am a bad daughter!” every time we scolded her for a poor choice and Mario now does the same every time he gets scolded (at least he is smart enough to say “son”).  

Maria watching over her broAll in all, however, I really couldn’t ask for a better role model for Mario.  I still have an email that my dad wrote me when I was starting out in the practice of law.  In it, he wrote how proud he was of me for how much I had accomplished and how much I cared for my brother and sister.  He ended the note by telling me how glad he was that I was the first child.  I think I may be writing something very similar to Maria someday in the future.

Beauty Queens

Maria has a favorite little girlfriend at school named Janira.  She had been begging all weekend to have a play date with her on Sunday but time slipped away from us so I decided to surprise her and pick her and Janira up from Kids Club on Monday afternoon. 

Mairo and his beloved computerPoor Mario.  He went with me to pick the girls up and he asked while we opened the doors to the school “Why can’t I have a play date with Blakey?” Blake used to live three houses down from us at our old house and Mario loved him because he was always outside playing sports.  But Blake is 7 years old and is interested in boys his age much more than he is interested in a four-year old.  I explain to him that Blake may be busy with boys his age, and he just looks at me like I am speaking a foreign language (who wouldn’t want to play with me, mom?!).  I ask him if he wants to invite over boys from his preschool, like Ben or Grant.  His response is “Ben smells funny and Grant is too small.”  The most picky four-year old (or any year-old for that matter) I have met.  However, he quickly replaced his frown with a smile as soon as I told him he could play on my computer a while since Maria wanted alone time with Janira. 

Janira and Maria taking an ice cream sundae breakJanira’s mom is a make-up consultant.  She always looks impeccable.  Janira shares her mom’s love for make-up and fashion.  And Maria loves that about her.  Maria is enamored with Janira’s mom’s fashion sense – her tight jeans, her high heels, her jewelry (she begged me to wear high heels when I came to her school to read a book last week). When Janira and Maria get together, it is all beauty, all the time.  They are either playing barbies or painting nails or applying way too heavy of make-up.  One of their favorite activities when they are at our house is to do my make-up and paint my nails and dress me.  Janira’s mom would never let them touch her so I am the fall-back.  Maria knows I will do it if she just begs for 2.5 seconds.  When she gets older, she better remember this torture I went through for her.  Ok, so maybe it’s not that bad but I can think of a few other activities I would enjoy a bit better…. 

The girls came to get me for my appointment, and I headed upstairs with them to the Janira and Maria Beauty Store.  They described to me the different lotions they make themselves out of peppermint and vanilla and strawberry.  They detail the color of the lipstick they will apply and the numerous shades of eyeshadow that match my eyes.  Maria informs me that “Mary Kay” loves their products.  They are simply pros.  Even Katy Perry can’t stay away.  They put on three applications of lipstick, four shades of eyeshadow, blush, concealor, lotions, perfume.  They love spraying hair spray all over my hair using at least half of a bottle on my mane.  But I abide with the hope that I am nurturing their creative spirits (and Janira hooks me up with really good make-up when I get old and she owns her make-up studio (Maria will visit her when she is on the road between corporate engagements).  ALl in all, I must love Ri completely to let her do this to me:

Putting on my "fish" face for Mario while I sport my sweet hair and make-up